Nipple Play

Sex researchers Masters and Johnson, who made 1960s history by inviting heterosexual and homosexual couples into their research rooms and watching them have sex, were struck by how nipple play marked the difference between homo and hetero sex. Nearly 75 percent of the gay couples Masters and Johnson observed began their lovemaking by nipple stimulation, with frequent penile erections resulting.

Unlike the penis, which we can place strategically to give pleasure even as we get it, our nipples keep us on the receiving end. It is this that makes nipples a delight or, for those who’d rather stay firmly in the driver’s seat of sexual pleasure, a threat.

Many describe being taught about their nipples by a partner, though you can also teach yourself. Take it slow until you figure out what level of stimulation suits you best. For some, a simple grazing with moistened fingertips is enough; others crave harder pulling of the nipples, or tugging on the chest hair that sometimes surrounds them.

Many have found that the more they play with their nipples, the more there is to play with. Consistent pulling, or the use of weights and clamps, can give nipples an enlarged, worked look and enhance stimulation. The tiny-titted among us, and those who play with them, have found that the smallest suction cup can pull the nipple out temporarily and enhance sensitivity. Applying a lubricant can also help bring a resistant nipple to erection; if, later, the lube keeps seeking fingers from finding their target, try grasping with a tissue or, for a rough thrill, a paper towel. Find the right way to do it and nipple pleasure for some men can be enough to cause orgasm all by itself.

Nipple Clamps
What are they?

Some nipple clips screw on, the screw mechanism allowing you or your sex partner to provide just the right amount of pressure. Some come wired for attachment to a vibrator for intense erotic sensations. And others are linked by a chain for decoration, or to lead the wearer around by the nipples.

Safety tips, or words of caution
Nipple clamps usually restrict the blood flow in the nipple, so watch carefully for skin de-coloration or temperature change. They should not be left on tightly for more than 15 minutes at a time. As “clampers” will attest they often hurt the most at the moment they are taken off. Its also a good idea to keep them clean after each use with soap and water….the last thing you want is a dirty clamp infecting your nips.

Good News: Nipple clamps don't have to hurt!
"Ouch!!!" Is that your first thought, when someone says "nipple clamp"? I bet you clasp your hands to your chest too! Well, I've got good news for you. Nipple clamps don't have to hurt (unless you really want them to).

Positioning
A friend of mine loves to have his nipples squeezed & pinched. When I first tried to do this for him, I pinched the tops of his nipples and he found it uncomfortable. He redirected my fingers further back to the base of his nipples and began enjoying himself in earnest. The same goes for nipple clamps. If you place the nipple clamps on the tip of a nipple it will be very painful and the clamp will probably fall off too. However, if you gently pull the nipple forward & place the nipple clamps where the nipple meets the chest, it will be less intense but still enjoyable and sensitive.

Surprise!
I once spent an enjoyable evening in a bathhouse having my nipples ravished by a big beefy guy. I was surprised when I looked down to see a nipple clamps hanging off my left nipple, as I hadn't even seen him put it on. I watched as he moved to my right nipple & squeezed with one hand. He kept up the pressure for a few seconds, and then popped on the remaining clamp with the other hand. It was a great way for him to put the nipple clamps on me and I hardly noticed him doing it!

Different types of clamps
If the homemaker inside you says that clothespins will do, you’re right. They’re not adjustable, however. For more careful control, pick up a set of clamps from a sex-toy store. They come tweezer-style, or with screws that allow you to start easy, then increase the squeeze. Go easy, since the sudden return of blood to your nipples when clamps are removed is often more painful that putting them on. For pressure without a lot of pain, try the little suction cups that come in snakebite kits you can get at army-navy stores, or their higher priced erotic-boutique cousins. Overuse of these can cause blistering or even open sores.

So there you have it. Nipple clamps don't have to painful. They can be erotic, beautiful, fun & kinky. They can make nipples feel like heaven, regardless of how small or large your nipples are. Go on - treat yourself to the great range of nipple clamps out there and have fun!

Article courtesy of Defiance Forever and Men Like Us: The GMHC Complete Guide to Gay Men’s Sexual, Physical, and Emotional Well-Being, by Daniel Wolfe.

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